Are you unknowingly weakening your child? Top entrepreneur challenges parental habits

Knowingly or unknowingly, we all pamper our child - whether giving in to their (often) unreasonable demands, or letting them throw tantrums left, right and centre, pampering is quite a common habit of Indian parents. While we all want the best for our child, it is also true that sometimes an excess of love can smother your child, who can grow up to be a stubborn, and selfish individual, who does not value relationships.

Dr. A. Velumani, the founder of Thyrocare and a respected entrepreneur, recently sparked a strong conversation on social media about parenting. In a blunt tweet, he warned parents that “pampering is killing your child’s future.” According to him, smothering children with excessive affection and protecting them from challenges can lead to arrogance, entitlement, and high stress levels later in life. Let's see how...

Pampering leads to entitlement
Dr. Velumani points out that children who are pampered often develop a sense of entitlement. They expect special treatment and comfort without putting in any effort of their own. This arrogance makes it difficult for them to handle setbacks or failures in the future, since they are always used to getting things done their own way.

It stops children from learning
When parents constantly shield their children from problems, or solve their issues for them, the kids never learn. Dr. Velumani says children who are allowed to solve their own problems grow up to be confident, clear-minded, and courageous. On the other hand, kids, who are hovered around, tend to be dependent, confused, and stressed. Overprotection prevents children from developing problem-solving skills and resilience.
It isn't always money
Many think pampering is simply materialistic. (toys, money etc) Dr. Velumani clarifies that it’s not about wealth. Even families with limited income can over-pamper by trying too hard to please their children, or by not expecting them to take responsibility. Grandparents, with their loving but excessive care, can also unintentionally contribute to this problem.

Hampers emotional strength
Pampered children often avoid responsibilities because they are not encouraged to do things on their own. This weakens their emotional strength and independence. Dr. Velumani stresses that children must be given age-appropriate tasks (including household chores), and should be allowed to make mistakes. This helps build courage and emotional resilience, which are essential for facing the real world.

Leads to stress
Ironically, pampering can increase stress rather than reduce it. Children who grow up expecting everything to be served on a platter, can get overwhelmed when they face difficulties. This can lead to anxiety and confusion. Dr. Velumani links rising stress levels in young adults to the traits of arrogance and entitlement created by overindulgent parenting.
What can one do?
Dr. Velumani advises parents to step back and allow children to face challenges naturally, that will help them grow as well. Instead of solving every problem, parents should learn to guide their children gently and encourage independence. When children make mistakes, they also learn from them, and take lessons along the way.