Love, obsession or a fatal attraction?

<div class="section1"><div class="Normal"><span style="" font-family:="" times="" new="" roman="" class="author">NIKHAT KAZMI & SHOBHA JOHN</span><br />NEW DELHI: Love can do strange things. It can turn you into an Alex Forrest who begins by cutting her own wrists and ends up boiling little bunnies and stabbing people (remember Glenn Close in Adrian Lyne''s <span style="" font-style:="" italic="">Fatal Attraction</span>).Or, it could put you on the edge — angry, rash and out of control — like Salman Khan. <br />Has the rebellious passion of Salman and Aishwarya spilled out of Sanjay Bhansali''s magnum opus into real life? Has Salman Khan been afflicted with a death wish ever since he crooned ‘Hum dil de chuke sanam'' to Aishwarya in real life too? Are his umpteen crimes and misdemeanours simply an end result of a fatal attraction that refuses to die, even in the face of denial? <span style="" font-style:="" italic="">Sunday Times</span> analyses...<br />"Salman seems to believe life is a three-hour Bollywood movie where the hero moves around with glitzy females on his arms, drives swanky cars at breakneck speed and gets whatever he wants," says Sanjay Chugh, clinical psychologist. His irrepressible streak of violence, towards himself and towards others, seems to be a fall-out of "a false sense of grandiosity where the star lives his life on just one credo: How can anyone say No to Salman Khan!" explains Chugh. It is this inability to take ‘no'' from Aishwarya, or anyone else, which could have triggered this self-destructive streak in the actor who "in a false sense of importance, could believe he is even above the law," he adds.<br />For Dr Rajesh Sagar, psychologist, AIIMS, Salman''s violent behaviour is simply the manifestation of frustration which could be a result of unrequited love. "Inability to cope with frustration leads to aggression," says Sagar. "This aggression could either lead to violence towards others or, if directed inward, it could end up in depression, anxiety, alcoholism," he adds.<br />Dr Jitender Nagpal, too, believes there could be a direct link in Salman''s irrational outbursts and his frustration in love. Obsession and frustration often lead to "outrageous, impulsive reactions which do not need planning and are essentially attention-seeking gimmicks," says Nagpal. Nagpal feels Salman''s relentless outbursts happen because he is allowed to go scot free whenever he blows a fuse.<br />For the attraction to loose its fatal dimensions, psychologists feel Salman should simply do some introspection and come to terms with his self-destructive streak. "He needs to have a realistic approximation of his self and understand he can''t get what he wants, simply by scaring people," says Chugh. As for Aishwarya? "The object of desire should be firm and stick to her decision. This could be troublesome in the beginning, but in the long run, it is the the only way out," says Sagar.</div> </div>