There is nothing called a perfect relationship, and interestingly, relationships are never about 50-50 as well. They can on one day, feel like a 70-30, or on others a 10-90, however as long as you are in for the right reasons, and are equally committed to each other, it will all work out in the end. When it comes to relationship rules, there is no right or wrong, as each couple is unique, and makes their own rules along the way. Regardless, here are some relationship rules you can take with a pinch of salt, and break them once in a while.
It's often said that partners should always be available for each other. However, having some alone time, or me time and space can be great for personal growth and maintaining individuality in a relationship. It's okay to set boundaries and prioritize personal time without feeling guilty, of course after consultation with your partner. This can actually strengthen your relationship by allowing you to recharge and bond with your partner with renewed energy and enthusiasm.
The advice to never go to bed angry might be well thought of, but it might not always be practical or healthy. Sometimes, emotions are too explosive to resolve immediately, and taking time to calm down can lead to more constructive conversations in the morning, without ripping each other then and there. It's okay to agree to disagree for the night and address issues when better sense prevails.
Agree to disagree is the new mantra of couples, and we too, agree! It's unrealistic to expect that partners will always agree on everything, since they are different individuals with their own mindsets. Differences in opinion are natural, and can even enrich your relationship by encouraging growth and understanding. It's okay to have disagreements and learn to navigate them respectfully. This can foster a more mature and resilient partnership.
Discussing past relationships can be sensitive, but it's not always necessary to avoid the topic entirely. If both partners are comfortable, sharing experiences from past relationships can provide insight into each other's values and preferences, and also answer some questions on each other's unresolved trauma. This openness can help build trust and understanding, as long as it's approached with sensitivity and respect.
No, you and your partner don't have to be joined to the t, so to say. While sharing social activities can be enjoyable, it's also important to maintain individual friendships and interests. It's okay to have separate social lives and pursue different hobbies, while taking an interest in each other's life simultaneously. This can prevent codependency and ensure that both partners maintain their identities outside of the relationship. It also can prevent either of the partners from getting too clingy, and hence causing trouble in the relationship.